If you type the word “stress” into a search engine you will get a variety of explanations and definitions but in the end we all know that stress can lead to physical and emotional ill health if not dealt with regularly. The definition I liked the most is the following:
“Stress is the feeling we have when under pressure, while stressors are the things we respond to in our environment. Examples of stressors are noises, unpleasant people, a speeding car, or even going out on a first date. Generally (but not always), the more stressors we experience, the more stressed we feel.”
Why? Because it actually mentions the importance of stressors and not only the state of being stressed. In the end it is not the stress itself we have to look at but the stressor and more so the way we respond to that stressor. Let’s take the speeding or slow car as an example. Why can some people ignore that stressor completely while it drives others mad and to actions they can’t even explain themselves where they came from – like yelling and cursing as if the driver would hear it…. And here begins the work dealing with stress by looking at the stressor. We have an emotional memory experience that lets us respond the way we respond and which is triggered from our unconscious mind. Within that unconscious mind we have stored a variety of emotions which might have protected us in a certain situation once but for some reason our brain now thinks, it has to protect us again and again when a similar situation appears. That memory emotion is stuck and can create stress as it lets us react in a way we actually don’t really want to react but can’t help it. Welcome to the world of unconsciousness.
The way to approach this “emotional stuckness” is by using a technique called wingwave-coaching which is a combination of EMDR (eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing), NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and muscle testing as a way to find the exact emotion to work with.
Wingwave coaching is new to Australia, coming all the way from Germany and it is now available at Mona Vale Health Space, provided by Barbara Simon, the Results-Coach at the clinic. For the month of July, Barbara is offering a 50% off the first visit so you can experience a different approach to reducing your stress levels.
Btw, stress is very often linked to fear and fear is one of the emotions mostly worked with in wingwave coaching. Like fear of heights, fear of flying, fear of spiders, fear of public speaking. And all of those fears create stress, don’t they….. It all comes together in the end J
Barbara Simon
Results Coach
Available for consults Thursdays at Health Space Mona Vale
Call 9979 8887
